You’re what I like to call: ‘Wrong!’
You know me to be quite apt at explaining myself by now. Reason being, I would never say anything to mislead you if I can possibly help it! I’ve always tried to look ahead, consider the entire picture and possible consequence of my actions against the dividends. My judgments then, are more than usually spot on. If I don’t know what I’m talking about, you can pretty well bet I won’t tackle the subject. However, having learned through keen, observation, and personal experience, I can confidently say that I qualify as a competent Parent, rather than the Child Beater you may be supposing of me right now. There’s a difference!
If you truly love your children, you must administer the appropriate amount of discipline at the appropriate times! By appropriate, I mean if it concerns something major to their proper development, like failing to carry out instructions that may involve serious consequences for your child later in life, or an actual armed robbery… LOL!
Take my word for this. For two of my children, a boy and a girl, I have only administered corporal punishment once and once only! Since taking this wise step, (not holding back , and teaching who’s Boss). That’s all important or you may wind up with a little Psychopath on your hands! It’s not my problem if your kid goes to Prison for Life at 19 cuz he lost his temper and shot someone.
Some boys more especially, tend to be willful enough not to produce tears. A red butt confirms it was delivered successfully. Then be certain to explain in detail exactly how much that hurt you to have to do that! Ask them why they did what they did, and explain the consequences, not just from you, but from how their entire lives will proceed on such a premise… ‘Will you please listen to me from now on?’ Else-wise, this is Parental Neglect!
Since then, I’ve had nothing but glowing reports from people everywhere, on how well behaved my children are, and I never once had to touch them again! When I ask them to jump, they ask how high… And it’s not out of fear, but the common sense that must be drilled into them. This in truth is respect that guides them. Else-wise, you are raising a little Trouble Maker, that eventually become: ‘Big Trouble Makers!’ Comprehend? This has also worked on my cat. It now obeys my every command making it unnecessary to suffer through life to begin with. You will find then generally, just making your cat stand in the corner with it’s nose against the wall, is enough…
The One that got away…
Elliot was the one I had yet to discipline at all before I left. He was only 3 at the time… I managed to retrieve a picture from my (One time) brother, and it was obvious in the picture that he was a true instigator in the making! So you see, the stand in the corner, or removal of privileges, or even grounding, in and of it’s own, is primary ineffective without at first removing the want to create mischief far from them, and as unfortunate as this may sound to you, sometimes you may have to even threaten the little Dodgers, reminding them that you DON’T want to strike them, and not that you do. This is one prominent reason we raise Criminals; we don’t spend enough constructive time with them to point them in the right directions to begin with!
These are Human Beings that start out as animals! Check out parental behavior in the entire Animal Kingdom if you don’t believe me… Watch a sibling start a fight with another cub, and just see if the Mother solves the problem with words? I’m not in a particular mood to strike any child. It’s a one time event, while they’re young, backed by caring and value instruction on life and how to tackle what they must face out there, without becoming just like them. And I’m not here to tell you to do anything! Your choices are yours to make, and yours alone.. For further instructions, please view this site: https://www.care.com/a/permissive-parenting-7-signs-your-kid-is-a-brat-1105261605 Backward as ever though: ‘I would NEVER raise a hand to my Child!’